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Personal Stories of LGBTQ Saints - Valerie Nicole Green and Carson Perez Gather Conference 2023
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Personal Stories of LGBTQ Saints - Valerie Nicole Green and Carson Perez Gather Conference 2023

Valerie Nicole Green and Carson Perez share personal stories as LGBTQ saints. Specifically, Valerie shares her experiences with local leaders during her initial transition and as they are currently constituted. Both Valerie and Carson share their personal interactions with ward members, what they have taught their wards about the LGBTQ experience, and what they have learned from their ward families. Topics: LGBTQ, LDS, trans, personal stories, church leadership, transgender

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Be of Good Cheer - Livier Mendoza Haynes Gather Conference 2023
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Be of Good Cheer - Livier Mendoza Haynes Gather Conference 2023

When we hear "Be of Good Cheer," we might have the immediate thought that we need to suppress any feelings that are not happiness. However, Liv shares how the Lord helps us navigate all of our emotions specially as we balance being part of the LGBTQ community and what that means for our eternal identities. Topics: LGBTQ, LDS, mixed orientation marriage, happiness

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Believe - Stephen Nelson & GENTRI - Gather Conference 2023
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Believe - Stephen Nelson & GENTRI - Gather Conference 2023

Stephen Nelson shares his coming out experience as an LGBTQ Latter-day Saint along with the story behind the song "Believe" that was born through inspiration and become an anthem of sorts regarding his experience and relationship with God. GENTRI performs "Believe" and Stephen accompanies them.

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"Loving and Lifting our LGBTQ Children with Christ as our Guide"
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"Loving and Lifting our LGBTQ Children with Christ as our Guide"

Many families in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have a child that identifies as LGBTQ. With this identification comes many heartfelt questions, concerns, and discussions as our child navigates their own decisions on their terms. Elder Quentin R. Cook challenges, “Let us be at the forefront in terms of expressing love, compassion, and outreach. Let's not have families exclude or be disrespectful of those who choose a different lifestyle as a result of their feelings about their own gender and/or orientation.” How do I have open conversations with love, respect, and support as I acknowledge the difficulties faced by my LGBTQ child? How does my personal covenant relationship with my Savior enhance my ability to walk with my child while they make decisions about their lives? How do I partner with the Lord in supporting and loving my LGBTQ child? How can I help them build their own relationship with Christ and the assurance that they are loved as a child of God?

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Being the Dad of an LGBTQ Child

This is a very special episode for Dads of LGBTQ kids - or about your Dad, or about the Dad of someone you love.

Today, I talk about the core issues unique to being the Father of an LGBTQ child.

I’ll give some tools you can use to understand your kids, deepen your relationships, strengthen your faith, and deal with non-affirming friends, family and those at church.

Dads, it’s just me and you today. Bring your fears, bring your hearts, and let’s talk.

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For Dads of LGBTQ+ Children – A Very Special Episode FreedHearts

“So, Dads…Your child is gay. Your love for your child seems to somehow conflict with your faith - at least according to what you may hear from Christian friends. Like it or not, you are on the first steps of a journey. What do you do? What kind of Dad will you be?Being gay is not a choice. Whether or not you unconditionally love, accept and affirm your gay child is. Rob is the father of five children, two of whom are part of the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, he shares with you three real responses from other Dads. And he asks you to think about which one is the most like you?”

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Without the Mask: Coming Out and Coming Into God's Light - Charlie Bird
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Without the Mask: Coming Out and Coming Into God's Light - Charlie Bird

Charlie Bird—the viral face of BYU during his years as Cosmo the Cougar—made waves across the nation in February when he came out and revealed to BYU fans that he is gay. Now, in Without the Mask, Bird reflects on how his identity has strengthened his testimony and how he views his sexual orientation in conjunction with his faith in Jesus Christ.

Alternating between memoir and teaching chapters, Bird's touching and authentic prose chronicles his decision to openly share that he is gay and to remain active in the faith. Highlighting the challenges Bird has faced along the way, the book also shares the blessings he's learned to recognize through his sexual orientation. Charlie feels deeply the importance of maintaining a relationship with God and hopes this message will "spark healing, bridge gaps of understanding and inspire hope" for other LGBTQ readers and those who love them.

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A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint
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A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint

President M. Russell Ballard counseled, "We need to listen to and understand what our LGBT brothers and sisters are feeling and experiencing. Certainly, we must do better than we have done in the past so that all members feel they have a spiritual home where their brothers and sisters love them and where they have a place to worship and serve the Lord" (BYU devotional, November 14, 2017). A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint invites readers to act upon that counsel by following the journey of Ben Schilaty, a licensed therapist and BYU Honor Code administrator, as he works to reconcile his faith with his sexual orientation. Each chapter in the book focuses on a question that the author is often asked, such as, "Were you born gay?" "Why do you stay in the Church?" "Why don't you marry a woman if marriage is about more than sex?" A Walk in My Shoes allows readers a glimpse into the life of a single, gay, active Latter-day Saint and provides guidance for how they can support and minister to their LGBTQ loved ones.

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Homosexuality: A Conversion: How A Conservative Pastor Outgrew The Idea That Homosexuality Is A Sin
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Homosexuality: A Conversion: How A Conservative Pastor Outgrew The Idea That Homosexuality Is A Sin

“Most of us grew up with only part of the story concerning our gay and lesbian neighbors. We thought people chose to be homosexual, and that with God's help they could choose to be straight. New scientific research shows that sexual orientation is determined in the waters of the womb, not in the waters of baptism. Being straight or gay is not an act of will, it is a gift of God.

This book traces a growing understanding of the interplay between God's love, scripture, the Church, and homosexuality. Although it isn't a science, psychology, history, or biblical studies book, it touches on those disciplines. The renowned medical researcher, Dr. Gregory Prince, wrote the scientific portion of Chapter 5, "Born that Way." There, you will find the latest information about genetics as it relates to sexual orientation and identity. The new scientific information on this topic is important, and is placed within a theological context.

The central message of this book is that God wants every LGBTQI person to know of God's tender and seeking care for you. The Lord Jesus sees you and loves you. You are precious in the sight of the Lord.

With discussion questions at the end of each chapter, this is an excellent resource for Bible study, group discussion, and General Conference developments.”

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"What A Therapist Wished Every Parent Knew" - TJ Thomas

As a therapist working with many LGBTQ youth, TJ Thomas provides insights and advice to parents on how to better connect with their children in his presentation “What a Therapist Wished Every Parent Knew” which was given during the 2023 Gather Conference breakout session for parents.

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Dr. Jordon Sharp: Choosing Love - One Dad's Unexpected Journey of Navigating the LDS/LGBTQ Space
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Dr. Jordon Sharp: Choosing Love - One Dad's Unexpected Journey of Navigating the LDS/LGBTQ Space

This challenging yet heartwarming session delves into the profound journey that many fathers embark upon when learning about their LGBTQ children. Dr. Sharp's experience as a father and bishop of LGBTQ youth sheds light on the challenges faced by parents, leaders, and children while offering insights, relatability, solace, and support.

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The Mackintosh Story (Mormon Messages)

“I’m a Latter-day Saint and I have a gay son. I love him with all my heart, might, and soul. And I love my religion with all my heart, might, and soul. It’s the core of who I am. I will never, never, ever turn my back on my son, and I will never, never, ever leave my religious faith. Period. I’ve been asked how and why. It’s because God has made it clear to me that I am to love my son…unconditionally”

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"Michael McLean: Faith Crisis, What Do We Do When We Feel Nothing?"

“Dad, I can’t do it anymore. I’m gay.” Michael Mclean’s son had come out to him. “Dad, I’ve tried to do everything you said. I went on my mission. I was an Eagle Scout. And I don’t know how to get through it.” Michael felt his son’s pain and wanted to support him. So, he turned to God in prayer. Michael had received answers before. He knew they would come, but he felt nothing. It was the first time in his life the heavens felt shut. His prayers couldn’t get past the ceiling. Michael begged God to talk to him. It was challenging the first weeks and months, but as two years passed, Michael questioned, “What if I got it wrong? Is there really a God who hears my prayers?”…

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